"What About Your Friends?"

Some people in life never realize a good thing until it goes away. Lets talk about friends. What constitutes a good friendship? I would say a slew of attributes, but essentially, friendships are based on love, loyalty, and compassion. My dad always said, "On your death bed, you will only have a handful of friends." That meant no more than five, literally.

Paps was way over my head at the time, but he knew in the end the lesson would soak in. A real friend is hard to come by. A fake friend seems like a real friend, but some variable exposes that said person. How many "friends" have you come by? Mind you, I'm speaking of best friends.

Don't we call a lot of our associates friends? But they're not. You know that really they are good associates. That's why on your deathbed they won't be there. I thought I had a best friend. But time and destiny proved different.

You can't be a best friend to someone when it's all about you. Selfishness destroys relationship along with pride and vanity. I admit I wasn't perfect in this instance but I know that I always had his best interest in mind. He on the other hand was wrapped up in him so much to where he really didn't genuinely care about most people he came by. It wasn't just me. He treated most like he did me (as if that eases the blow).

A true friend respects the love that the other one unleashes freely. Thus, he gives that same love right back. But when pride, vanity and selfishness kicks in-friendships go out the window. Things become awkward and misconstrued and one realizes that love has been set to the side.

So this blog is for all those that thought they had a best friend, but through time, pain, and circumstances, things changed. Thus, in the end, they lost a best friend. Keep your head up and thank God that it was revealed. And, affirm strongly that you will only invest time in people who really care about you. Settle for nothing less.